Well, it's too late to be a virgin now, but lately, I've been thinking about abstinence. I lost my virginity because I didn't think I wold ever get married, and therefore, I had no one to keep my virginty for. I still don't think I'll ever get married, but looking back now, I realise quite a few things.

Hardcore feminists argue that your virginity isn't what's important- it's the person you are that should keep a guy with you. I agree. A man can't think that a woman's body is all there is to her.

And yet, as happy as I am with my sexual activity, I can't help but feel a bit of a pang. I don't know if this is due to my Catholic background, or not, but I do. digging into it, I feel there is nothing wrong with saving yourself for marriage, so long as it is your choice. If a man has the nerve to stay with you for a few good years without getting any action, well, then, isn't what he's looking at YOU, and not your body?

I see some sense in the campaign for abstinence. Most men, as we all know, put a lot of stock in their, well, stock. If he sticks with some girl who won't... nurture his percieved need for sexual stimlation, come on, that's got to mean he at lest, really really likes her. And it sucks that a girl has to do that to see what a guy really feels, but it's the truth.


But, a girl feels her sexuality too. I've had sex fantasies since I was little, and since before I even really noticed exactly WHAT my sexual gear was. I like sex, it's fun. And, it's good excercise. And in some cases, mostly with the hardcore Christians, a man will not marry a woman who's not a virgin.

Also, why are the Christian pre-teens the ones going to "Purity Balls" (google it) and promising to be virgins until marriage while the boys are only asked to pledge in passing? I don't think enough men are asked to be virgins for this to be equal. A woman is just as likely to cheat when she doesn't get the attention she wants. In most cases, this attention is more pyschological than physical, yet, I have a suspicion that when a man bites down his urge to fuck, he'd has no choice but to either walk away from his woman, or be as romantic as possible to expend that energy.


I feel like, at this point, the most romantic thing a guy could do, is to refuse to have sex with his woman in favor of doing something that effects her emotionally.

The second most romantic thing he cold do is toss her down somewhere and beg for some good lovin' in a semi-brutish, mostly teasing way.


... opinions?


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